Tuesday, May 21, 2013
-Teachers laying on top of their students to protect them from the storm.
-Parents waiting for their babies to be found in the rubble that was an elementary school just hours before.
-Parents holding on to their children by their hair as the strong winds tried to rip them from their arms.
-Elderly who have lost everything they own and have no one.
The stories go on and on and they're all heartbreaking. I cry every time I watch any of it.
There are so many ways to help. One way that I'm helping is by giving to the absc.org. They're in contact with the Oklahoma Baptist Convention and helping in any way possible. Every single penny goes toward feeding and helping the victims of the Oklahoma tornadoes. I urge you to find a way to give/help. Here's a link of other organizations you can contact to give.
When I watched this clip from the news tonight, it made my heart happy.
I realize that many have nothing good to say about the church. And though the church isn't perfect, because it's full of imperfect people like me, I'm still thankful to be a part of it. The messy, chaotic, constantly-needing-fixed, beautiful bride of Christ.
God loves the church.
And so do I.
I'm praying continuously, Oklahoma friends.
Love to all,
Posted by Alex and Jill at 9:46 PM
Thursday, May 16, 2013
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Sunday, May 12, 2013
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Wednesday, May 8, 2013
I'm a little late to the series this week. The topic is when we come unglued.
How do we keep it from happening? Or what do we do when it happens?
This is something I started praying about several years back. And God still has a work to do in me in this area. I'm far from perfect in my relationships.
I'm the one that would come unglued in my marriage. Alex is the calm, reasonable one. I'm the hot-headed one. God used Alex to open my eyes and change my heart in this area. By watching him stay calm in the midst of an argument. By watching him stay respectful during a heated conversation. I thought to myself, "I want that...I want to respond like that." These were two areas that I needed some help. I had to set my pride aside and I realized it was easy for me to "lose it"on the person that I'm closest to and that made me sad. Treating my husband in a way that I would never treat a friend or co-worker or some complete stranger off the street? So wrong.
I started praying that God would help me respond in a way that honors Him. That I would respond in a way that shows respect and honors my spouse. Since having children, I pray that I will respond to my children in a way that won't tear them down or break their spirit. I always want my children to know how I will respond. I believe it brings insecurity into their lives if I respond in a different way every time they do something wrong. If they have no clue if Mama is going to stay calm or blow a gasket - that's not a good thing.
Whenever I've responded in a way that I know is wrong, I feel terrible. That moment when you knew better but just let your flesh have it's way. I've had lots of practice going to my husband and three year old to ask for forgiveness for the way I responded in a situation.
So here are a few things I've put into practice and that helps me not come unglued.
Scripture, scripture, scripture. If I'm filling my mind with His words - I'm much more likely to use His words instead of my own when responding to my spouse.
Give each other the benefit of the doubt. Don't assume that the other is out to hurt you. They chose you and they still choose you or they wouldn't be there working on it. Giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt gives way for open, honest, respectful conversation and in the end - resolution. I've been known to say to myself over and over, "he's not out to get me, he's not out to get me." HAHAHA! I'm serious. Because that's the first thing the devil puts in my head. He wants me to believe my spouse just doesn't care. And nothing could be further from the truth. My battle is not against Alex!
Use your words. I can't think of one instance where I regretted being silent and just listening. On the other hand, I can think of several times I wish I had just shut my mouth and opened my ears. And when you do speak - be kind and respectful. Treat them the way you want to be treated.
Scripture, scripture, scripture. If I'm filling my mind with His words - I'm much more likely to use His words instead of my own when responding to my children.
Get on their level. I find that if I get down at eye level with my children - I don't raise my voice. It forces me to speak softly. I respond in a way that encourages them to listen and obey. I also imagine what it feels like to be them. This little person looking up at this person towering over them - coming unglued all over them? That's scary.
Take a breather. Sometimes I just look at Alex and say "you take this one." I can recognize when I might not be in the best mood and might not respond in the best way. If Daddy is available to handle the discipline, I let him.
Choose your battles. Not every single thing my child does wrong is worth losing my mind and testimony over. Seriously.
Sometimes I just need more rest and it has nothing to do with Amelia pouring an entire box of cereal on the floor. Those are the moments we need to stop and laugh. Because it's funny.
Is Amelia supposed to help herself to the cereal? No, but it's not the end of the world. And it's a $4 box of cereal. Accidents happen and she needs me to laugh about the stuff that doesn't matter. She needs me to laugh about the stuff that doesn't matter otherwise she'll grow up walking on egg shells around her mother. I do not want that.
I've come a long way in this area but I'm still a work in progress.
I'm really enjoying this series and have read posts from some amazing, Godly women. I look forward to reading how you keep from coming unglued! :)
Love to all,
Posted by Alex and Jill at 8:22 PM
I decided to write a post about this because we went through several months of Amelia having this virus and it wasn't fun. I had never heard of it until my SIL told me about it. My nieces had it and from what our pediatricians/dermatologist told us, it's very common. And very contagious. Thus the name.
Molluscum Contagiosum isn't life threatening by any means. It's in the "pox family" of viruses. It can't hurt your child - it's just really annoying - especially for children that struggle with eczema. Amelia is our super-sensitive-to-everything child. We couldn't even use Dreft when she was a baby because she would break out all over her body. She couldn't use the sweet smelling baby lotions. To this day, if I try to put a new outfit on her without washing it first - she'll break out all over her body.
I'm not going to lie, when she caught this virus and I started reading about it, I freaked out inside. It can stay in their system for up to a year and even as long as three years. You're supposed to keep it covered whenever they're around other children, they can't bathe with their siblings, they aren't supposed to swim with other children, and they can't scratch it or it will spread the virus. It's a never ending cycle if they're always scratching it. And a child with eczema seems to always have sensitive areas that itch.
We found ourselves constantly telling Amelia:
"don't kiss your sister on the mouth"
"don't scratch your arm"
"don't kiss your cousins on the mouth"
"don't scratch your leg"
"don't kiss your friends on the mouth"
What's with little girls wanting to kiss everyone?? I never realized until we were dealing with this virus. We just didn't want her to spread it and give the virus to other children and per our doctor, we knew how easily that could happen.
We took Amelia to a pediatric dermatologist. We decided on a treatment where they would inject a yeast into the top of one of the lesions. This treatment has the best success rate but it takes several injections. You get one injection per month for up to 6-7 months.
Amelia was still getting new lesions and was MISERABLE after our first injection. She would cry at bedtime and ask us when her "spots" were going to go away. She would pray at bedtime and ask God to take her "spots" away. She would ask why her sister couldn't take a bath with her anymore. We never told her it was because of her virus but she knew. It broke our hearts.
So...I stayed up that night and cried and searched the internet until 2am for any and all treatments available. I read every review known to man. In my search I found THIS product and decided it couldn't hurt to try it. I ordered two tubes, not knowing how much it would take if it really worked. I'm going to be honest, I would have paid any amount of money at that point to get rid of it. At the point of my three year old crying every night - that's when this Mama took matters into her own hands and there was no price tag too large to help her.
This was our routine every single night for two weeks. They recommend you use the product 2-3 times a day but it can stain clothing and I didn't want to make Amelia start and finish her day with this process. We chose to only use it at night after bath time. The first picture is the amount of lesions she had when we first started. The second is how many she had after using the product for a week.
Posted by Alex and Jill at 9:40 AM
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
Posted by Alex and Jill at 9:31 PM